In a world surrounded
by pain, suffering and hardships, there is, simultaneously, a world in need of you loving the Beauty within yourself.
Undo the Blocks to Self-Love
Loving yourself is a two step process. The first step involves releasing the junk that covers up self-love.
Let go of unloving thoughts. Judgments, criticism and blame, whether directed inward or outward, come from an
unloving place. Choose to release these and practice focusing on acceptance, compassion and forgiveness for self and others.
These are loving attitudes that lead to loving behaviors.
Process and release emotions. Emotions are the body's way of expressing itself. When acknowledged and felt they
release, allowing inner happiness to bubble forth. When they are suppressed or repressed, they become more painful. Feeling
and processing emotions is a nurturing way to express self-love.
Release the past. People often cover up their self-love by reliving painful past experiences in their mind or
through sharing stories. Look for the lessons and growth opportunities from past experiences,forgive where you need
to, let go and move into the present where all possibilities for love and happiness exist
People grow up believing the only way to have love is to receive it from someone else. This is a form of conditional love
that often leads to codependent relationships and unhappiness. In reality, love emanates from the core of one's being, so
it is always available for one to experience and share with others.
Self-love is the key to happiness so as people learn how to love themselves they release all the negative messages and
invalidation that covered up their inner truth.
It is the understanding and knowledge you have of your own existence. It is how you see yourself in relation to others
and to your surroundings.
To have a positive or healthy self-concept you must:
Know yourself
Love yourself
Be True to yourself
HAS ABUSE CHANGED HOW YOU FEEL ABOUT YOURSELF?
Sometimes we loose our abilities to continue to love ourself because the hand of
another pushes us deep into Depression. Did you face the tearful realization that you cant be that perfect self because someone
stopped loving you or because someone continually beat you down to hatred towards yourself...
If this has happen to you...then know that you are not alone....This happen to
me as well as to my Brother and this is what I want you to do to start a New Journey to start loving and accepting yourself
again.
The abuse that you endured was not your fault. There is never any justification for abuse. All people deserve to be treated
with dignity and respect.
Seek counseling to help you process and deal with the whirlwind of emotions that leaving an abusive relationship produces.
Talking with friends is helpful, however, it is important to have someone who is completely non-biased. Someone who has no
emotional ties to you or your abuser. Many areas have abuse counseling or shelters available at little or no charge.
Be patient with yourself. Abusers chip away at their victims self-respect and self-image. It will take time to repair
and rebuild the damage from the abuse so please be gentle with yourself, and don't expect it to happen all once.
Treat yourself. Do something that you enjoy, whether it's a hot bath or favorite movie, it's important to allow yourself
little extras during this healing process.
Take care to surround yourself with positive people.
